In the most recent episode of Black Sails Anne has a great dialogue with Jack about how perspective and distance can change the way you see things.

Jack: But?

Anne: What?

Jack: Last night you said you’d thought about not returning, but?

Anne: Standing there on the jetty in Port Royal I realized that was the first time you and I had been separated by that much water since we was f!@#$%^ kids.

Jack: Hmm.

Anne: Being that far away, you see things differently. Helped me see what we are. Maybe what we ain’t. You saved me from something awful, Jack. And I owe you my life for it. Maybe there’s some part of that you just can’t owe.

Regret is the type of loss that you don’t feel right away. It is like the slow heat of an Asian spice vs the instant fiery burning of Mexican chilis. Sure you feel them both equally the next day as they make their painful lava like exit from your behind but with regret you don’t feel anything at first.

The birth of a regression pain is, well, painless. That is why it is so easy. You just get so caught up in whatever moment you were in you fail to allow your macro values dictate your current micro actions. It happens to us all. The pain and loss of regret isn’t even noticeable until we are distances away from the situation that caused it. Only then do we have that, “Oh sh!@,” moment.

Regret is easily identifiable by some key indicative phrases we see in common usage everyday.

  • “I shouldn’t have said that.”
  • “I wish I would have known that.”
  • “I was blind.”
  • “It seemed like a good idea at the time.”
  • Gimme five bucks and I’ll do it.

The thing with regret is that you don’t realize you have lost anything until it is too late. Maybe you lost a lover, an opportunity, your car keys at the bar last night or all of your money in a high stakes investment company (You knew Robotic Rabbits was NOT going to be a thing right?). In the end most of us just lose the trust of another person or ourselves. How could we be trusted if we were so ignorant? Surely this indicates a repeating behavior and we are all horrible people?

No. You are not horrible. You are just human (Unless you are a robot. (01110011 01101111 01110010 01110010 01111001).

Tomorrow we can talk about how to make less mistakes and how we can harness the present to prevent a burning sensation in the future.

You should know that there isn’t one person on the planet who cares about that one time you forgot to wear a belt in grammar school and your pants fell down. Just you. Late at night. Trying to go to sleep. Oh god! Why?

The prompt today was to be brief. But sometimes you just can’t.

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April 10th, 2015

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